I grew up with people who encourage you to be strong and independent. When I did something that wasn't right, I had to answer to the person I did it to and receive a punishment from them and then go home and hear a lonnnnnng lecture from my dad. Now that was punishment enough! My dad would always tell me that " Not to depend on people. Try to accomplish what you need on your own." "Don't always help people for money, God will bless you in other ways because you help someone else." I listen to all his lectures, but this mainly stuck with me in life. I'm glad he taught me the values of being independent and not to the point where I don't need anyone but basically to know that when something has to get accomplish in a timely manner, make sure it is done. He showed me how to love and support people by not doing the work for them but to guide and demonstrate how to do it. He always stated," If I do it for you, you will never learn how to do it yourself." True statement. I am the baby of five and I moved near my parents to help out in their time of need such as company, chores around the house and taking them to doctor appointments. One day my dad wanted me to help him mow the lawn. Something went wrong with the lawnmower. He said," Lift up the mower and see what the problem is?" I said to myself, " Is he serious? I'm a girl." I did what he said and I found the problem. One of the neighbors came up and watched me and then said to my mom," why does he have Nette holding up that lawnmower (riding lawnmower)? " That's a girl." My mom said," I guess he's trying to make her a hell of a woman." We all laughed about it after he past away. I do thank him for all he did for us and how he kept the family together spiritually,financially and mentally.
My sister in law, Rosemarie always been there for me as a counselor and a confidant as well as another sister. She was always supportive in whatever I did. She guided me with directions that would assist along the way and when I needed to get my act together she was their to give me the extra push I needed. When it was my last year in college, I got pregnant. OMG! That was hell trying to get to class and doctor's appointments sometimes on the same day my 8' 0'clock class begins. Luckily, I had instructors to work with me and assist me in anyway possible by providing me with makeup assignments.( Pass the class with and "A" Yeah!!! ) After I had the baby Rose sat down with me and talk in this beautiful, calm and soothing voice. She gently placed her arms around me and whispered in a sweet calm voice," This is your last semester and you are going to take your a*@*** back to school and finish with honors." She kissed me on my cheeks and smiled. I was shocked but I did what she said. I graduated and was on the honor roll. Its amazing how some people can give you that extra push with the right words. LOL
Lachelle,
ReplyDeleteMy grandmother would tell me you can't expect to get paid for everything that you do. I would think to myself, is he crazy. I am out here sweating and working hard and she don't want me to get any money. I knew to say it to myself because she would have knocked me down. I know now what she meant. I can hear her say that God is going to BLESS you for what you do.